Preston Xaverian News: 31st May 2019

News just in from Fr Jim. You may remember from his previous post (Sunday the 26th May) that he and Hugh Foy were off to Rome for a conference. Fr Jim writes…

The 50 Years anniversary of the 1969 Conference on “Cultures of Unbelief” was held in the Gregorian University in Rome from May 28-30. Jim Clarke sx and Hugh Foy took part on behalf of the UK Region who have as one of their directives Interfaith Dialogue.

The basis of the Conference was an ongoing study looking at belief and unbelief in various parts of the world. One of the aspects was looking at the disaffiliation from the Church and the growing tendency towards atheism. On the whole, it was a very useful time and relevant to our Mission in Europe and the Western World.

Preston Xaverian News: 26th May 2019

Here in Preston things have been quite busy. Last Saturday (18/05) there was a day exploring “Being Church in Smaller Groups” as part of the Formation for Mission agenda of the ACTA Group. Facilitated by Rose and Greg McCrave, the day gave the 40 or so participants a chance to identify and celebrate where we can be Church in smaller group settings. It was a very life giving and enthusiastic time together and we look forward to the next day on July 13th, where we will be aided by Simon Stewart to look at the Emerging Church.

On September 14th we will have a day organised by the Xaverians where we will present the Xaverian Charism, explore together how to live the mission spirituality and make the Xaverian Centre here a place of formation and nourishment, but also one of outreach. Come and take part and see how we can put in practice our aims of interfaith dialogue, lay formation and mission on the margins by cultivating a mission spirituality.

This week Jim will be in Rome with Hugh Foy, our director of projects and programmes, taking part in a Conference at the Gregorian University on “Cultures of Unbelief.” This is part of our commitment to interfaith, interreligious dialogue. We will keep you posted on how it went.

On July 1st we welcome Phil Callaghan who will work with us here in Preston. Phil is a young lay man who has great experience in youth and lay formation and was the Chair of the YCW in the UK. He will help in both administration but also in creating and delivering programmes. We are excited to have him on board.

We wish to thank all who continue to put on events and courses here at the Centre and to all who work behind the scenes in collaboration with us. Please keep abreast of all that’s going on via the web site or by contacting the Centre.

God bless

Jim Clarke, s.x.

Mothering Sunday: 31st March 2019

For Mothering Sunday we have this lovely piece from one of our community.

As I sat beside mum on April 9th last year to ‘officially’ receive her dementia diagnosis, an unusual sense of peace surrounded me. The lovely large gentle Nigerian ‘african mama’ type  psychiatrist tried to explain to her that she had Alzheimer’s disease and there were four different tablet options, and mum could try them one at a time to see which one suited her best.  She spoke in an easy almost casual tone as though she was offering her four hats, all different colours and each with its own ‘advantages’!  Mum wasn’t in the slightest bit phased and just nodded politely and said ‘thank you very much Doctor, thank you for your time’. The two of us left and did what we always did in these situations, got back in the car and headed to the nearest tea shop. A scone and pot of tea and all would be well.  In fact, these appointments were as routine to us as they probably were to the psychiatrist. This is because mum is 86, I’m 56 and for more than the last 40 years we’ve attended as many psychiatric appointments, as we’ve had scones…..well almost! Mum has suffered severe depression for most of her life. Now Alzheimer’s has come along and I want to share the ‘friend’ it has been to us in the last year .

For the first time in our lives we are living without her depression simply because as a result of Alzheimer’s, Mum’s FORGOTTEN everything she was depressed about!  Namely a terrible childhood, 50 years of a predominantly unhappy marriage, a lifelong battle with no self esteem etc.  Whilst she can clearly remember a period of her life from about the age of 17 – 27, her Alzheimer’s symptoms mean that for some reason she chooses to recall mainly only HAPPY memories. It is incredible that she has forgotten where she lived for the last 60 years and the jobs she did too. ALL those years have just disappeared. As her primary carers, this takes some getting used to for myself and my husband who have looked after her for the last 40. But for her it is a total gift. She lives not in the past, nor in the future, but only in the present moment. Often not even in the present day, as by evening she usually can’t recall much if anything of the afternoon, she is only present to the moment by moment clock!

This means that she lives now like at no other time in her previous years. As a workaholic, she had no hobbies, no interest in her world around especially nature, which always saddened me, as I always loved every aspect of the natural world. We never had flowers in our home, as she wouldn’t have dreamt of spending money on them when she hadn’t  enough for food. Now, wherever we go, she wants to stop and admire flower, plants, trees, birds, sky, sun, moon anything she can see! Her favourite place to go to is church. She has a deep devotion to Our Lady and in church, whilst she has little engagement with the ‘theology’, she loves the statues, candles, stained glass, flowers and sings along following the readings and joining in the prayers. The vibrance of our liturgy is itself a gift for her, that I too often take for granted.

I don’t want this to sound like Alzheimer’s hasn’t come with its challenges because of course it has. The tablets didn’t ‘suit’ her, and we’ve made all sorts of ‘adaptations’ to her independent living apartment.  We have also had to change many things within our family  in order to accommodate ‘Nanna’s needs’, but overall I wouldn’t have my last 56 years of her back. As ‘Mum with Alzheimers’ at 86 she’s not in any pain, she knows she’s deeply  loved, she laughs a lot and tells me she is looking forward to our next walk and tea shop trip. There’s much to be said for ‘Contented Dementia’!

“Do Not Be Afraid For I Am With You Always”.  HE is and we aren’t! Thanks Be To God.

Have your say: Feedback on website

xaverians.org.uk is one today

Today, 23rd Mar 19, is the 1st anniversary of the launch of this website. It was originally intended as the site for the Xaverians in the UK. Since then we have seen a few changes not least of which that the Xaverians in the UK have created a new site xavs.org and the site xaverians.org.uk has become focused on serving the Preston community.

Any anniversary is a good opportunity to stop and reflect. Can you help us with this by completing this short on-line questionnaire? This is a chance to say what you like and do not like, put forward ideas and ask questions. Please click here to have your say.  We really would appreciate your input.

Walking Together With Jesus

Last Tuesday evening, at 7.30pm, we were delighted to welcome around a dozen people to the first of our Ignatian Lenten Retreat evenings entitled ‘Walking Together With Jesus’.

There was a wonderfully peaceful atmosphere as we gathered to pray with the Scriptures using the ancient practice of Lectio Divina, which has been described as a ‘four-runged ladder to heaven’.

Having shared a little of how Lent had started for each of us, and after a brief explanation of the history and practice of Lectio Divina, we were taken through the four stages of this prayerful approach to scripture, described as the four R’s; Read, Reflect, Respond and Rest, using last Sunday’s Gospel recalling Jesus’ temptations in the wilderness.

Our time together was punctuated by sharing and silence, and the chance for a cuppa at the start and end of our evening, and was appreciated by all as a great way to begin Lent supporting each other in prayer.

We gather together again this coming Tuesday (19th March) for the second of our six Lenten evenings to look at another helpful Ignatian practice related to praying with the Scriptures known as ‘Imaginative Contemplation’, and we would be delighted if you were able to join us.

Each of the sessions stands alone, so don’t worry if you can only join us for one or two evenings, and for more information of our coming sessions and the helpful on-line resources available to accompany the ‘Walking Together With Jesus’ Retreat please click here.

Social Justice and the Care of Creation: Feedback

Fr Xavier Jeyaraj SJ, President for Social Justice and Ecology Secretariat (SJES) in Rome

On the evening of Tuesday 26th Feb 2019 we had a visit from Fr Xavier Jeyaraj SJ . He spoke to an audience of about 40 on the theme of Social Justice and the Care of Creation. This is my personal reflection on some of the things he said to us.

“We are all connected and belong to one another.” We often deny this by speaking of ‘them ‘ as if those others we refer to are irrelevant, different, and inferior to ourselves.

“We are all leaders.” We often have mixed feelings about that. We want to be listened to but shrink from speaking out. We think we are right but we do not follow through and act.

“Where are we?” The state of the world is far from perfect. We are beset with issues including:

  • Extraordinary inequalities in the distribution of wealth.
  • Over exploitation of natural resources.
  • Climate change.
  • Exploitation of workers.
  • Populism, ‘fake news’, the ‘filter bubble’, avoiding anything that is challenging, uncomfortable or requires critical thought.
  • Fear of diversity.
  • The rise of the Alt-Right in the USA, European Nationalist Parties and Extremism.

“We need Leaders of Hope.” Democracy must be rooted in spirituality, social justice and love.

“What do we need to be Leaders?” We must:

  • Be authentic and act with integrity. Remember that we ourselves are flawed, that we personally are sinners in need of forgiveness.
  • Think of others. Leaders being the Servants of others.
  • Foster leadership in others.
  • Listen and be attentive.
  • Be prophets, speaking truth to power.
  • Be inspiring.

“What can we do?” We can:

  • Build an inclusive society.
  • Take in realistic positive messages, avoid fear and defeatism.
  • Reflect on how we feel and not just what we think.
  • Discern, look into difficult issues and work out what is right and wrong. Develop our own spiritual resources and use them critically.
  • Be more friendly to the environment.
  • Stand alongside the vulnerable. Help those affected by economic and environmental stress.
  • Foster the leadership skills of the young.
Reduce, Reuse and Recycle

Fr Xavier gave some simple examples of how we can become more friendly to the environment. For most of us these are a challenge. They sound simple but they are not. Take a simple case – “Use public transport, walk or cycle.” Our reaction is likely to be “Sorry, I don’t have time, it is too far and it is raining so I am going to drive.” We need to think and be creative.

After the talk Fr Xavier took questions. One of them brought us back to what we can do. Earlier Fr Xavier had told a powerful story about a clash of interest between a rich international mining company and villagers in rural India. The question was about how we, who are lucky enough to have a surplus, choose to invest. Do we think about how our money is used? Perhaps we should start there.

Social Justice and the Care of Creation: A talk by Fr Xavier

On Tuesday 26th February we will be hosting a talk by Fr Xavier on the subject of Social Justice and the Care of Creation. This is a big subject. How can we pray “Our Father…” and not care for His creation? How can we ignore our sisters and brothers when God is our Father?

Come and listen to Fr Xavier. Feb 26 @ 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm

Refreshments and chat afterwards.

The Care of Creation – A talk by Fr Xavier Jeyaraj SJ

An update on this event. Fr Xavier is going to speak at St Wilfrid’s Parish Centre in the afternoon and at the Xaverian Mission in the evening. He will present us with an interesting question “Is Leadership too important to be left to Leaders?”

For the afternoon session click here

For the evening session click here which gives details on how to book. Booking advisable as we are limited to an audience of 80.

A Journey with Mary and Joseph

Not all the events held at our Centre are public. Here is an account of one of those private group events.

On Saturday, December 1st. Women Together in the Diocese of Lancaster organised an Advent day of Prayer in the Xaverian Mission Spirituality Centre (formerly Tabor) Preston. It was led by Father Nyagasaza Bideri who runs the Centre. From the start, although it was a grey, wet and dreary looking day, we received a very warm, hospitable welcome from him. We felt immediately that he had been looking forward to our coming there and had been preparing for the day with care and enthusiasm. He told us that it was to be a day of joy!

The greatest reality in our lives is our relationship with God. So, first, to help us allow God to heal our hearts from all that hinders His love embracing us, Father Bideri led us in an unusual reflection on the elder brother of the prodigal son and his troubled relationship with the father. In an interactive session, together we identified all the troubling elements that the elder son refused to let go of in himself. In naming these we could let go of all the same elements we recognised in ourselves. So we were ready then to open up to the love of God at work in the lives of Mary and Joseph before the birth of Jesus, tracing their spiritual journey through scripture and art.

We celebrated Mass together at midday and after lunch shared a very joyful session with carols and seasonal hymns illustrated on the computer as we enjoyed singing along. A half hour of silent prayer before the Blessed Sacrament then followed and we drew the day to a close with song and prayer and blessing, grateful to Father Bideri for this lovely introduction to the Advent Season.

Women Together has a long history in the Diocese of Lancaster since it was first established by Bishop Brewer to give women a voice and opportunities to deepen and develop their faith and encourage the service that flows from that. So on the same day the organising committee took the opportunity for a “grass roots” consultation with all who came. In the spirit of Pope Francis we know that we need to listen and learn from women themselves what kind of topics and days they want to share. We asked permission to use their contact details for future publicity as we will see what suggestions were made and what can then be planned ahead.

Philomena Grimley SHCJ

This article first appeared in the Diocesan VOICE and is reproduced here with the kind permission of the author.